How Do Introverts Make Friends In The Workplace?

Find your most comfortable way of communication, real or urgent.

Communication is very important whether it is good or bad.

It is related to all businesses.

When you need to solve something, you know a lot of people who will get you a lot of trouble.

Asking acquaintances and friends to help and ask a stranger to do things for you is quite different.

I have problems.

I am an introvert.

I am not a shy person, I am not afraid in public, but I feel uncomfortable when chatting.

If I were to spend the night with strangers, when I got home, I would feel very tired, like throwing in the sea and struggling with the big waves or being baked by the sun for a day.

I'd rather wrap my head in blankets for 4 hours, which would make me feel comfortable.

In engineering schools, there is no problem with introverts like me. The interaction in engineering courses is not very strong. In the study group, it is necessary to speak only when necessary.

But in business, it's very bad.

Most of the time, I will sit behind and do not participate in the discussion.

It is not appropriate to participate in social activities.

Now some of the students in the class have already done the top floor, but they don't remember me, and I don't know what they are doing.

If you don't have a network, when you need someone with a certain skill, you will not know where to start, especially for entrepreneurs and businessmen.

So you have to advertise, but only 5% of the applicants are satisfied. You have to pick them out and arrange interviews.

In the past 7 years, I have been trying to learn.

And achieved some results.

Below is the experience I summed up. How does an introverted person communicate?

Imagine if you have a good interpersonal network, when you want to know something, just call 1 or 2 phones to solve the problem.

Taking time to socialize, you can save time to solve problems.

People who have good networking can not send emails to people they don't know, buy a pile of databases, and find candidates from thousands of resumes.

If you choose, do you spend your time communicating now?

Before the prince appears, you will kiss countless frogs.

Sometimes, you have to deal with emergencies from time to time.

An uncomfortable experience for a hour will let you learn what topics can continue and what topics should be stopped in time.

In the end, you will find some people and things you like.

If you kill your patience, you will no longer be willing to do such things.

So recognize your weaknesses and do 1 or 2 things a month.

It takes a long time to build relationships, so it's best to stay in some groups for a long time instead of losing confidence in two groups in 10 months.

So outgoing people can talk about something about you and continue to discuss what you have achieved.

In some circles, you will be trusted by others.

You must expect others to be consistent with their own ideas, but the fact is that the world is measuring your value according to what you contribute.

After that, invite them to have coffee or beer.

If you want to see an introvert, he / she will not invite you. You have to take the initiative to do it.

Introverts are sentimental and analytical.

Make good use of this ability.

What works and what doesn't work?

Where can we spend money and gain profits?

When I lived in Space Coast, Florida, I often went to an activity called Entrepreneurship Forum.

I learned a lot there.

From time to time, it took me 6 months to let people remember me and mix them with them.

A 23 year old young man who stays with a group of middle-aged people is certainly not very comfortable.

But you have to keep showing and keep on going.

Instead of finding a marketing person, you need to go to someone who knows a lot of marketers and invite him to dinner.

If your relationship has already worn away your patience, you should find 10 key people. They know many other people, and then you can find and maintain 55 relationships.

It will take a lot of time, because finding a key person is very difficult.

For introverts, some factors in their work force them to communicate.

There is a book "Never Eat Alone", the method mentioned in it is right.

There's nothing wrong with people, but introverts like us can't communicate for personal relationships.

When you know a lot of people, you should spend more time on the right people and reduce the time to get to know new friends.

The most difficult part for me is the first few minutes.

Sometimes, when I meet a stranger, I don't know what to say.

If he can start a topic first, such as asking me how to see utilitarianism in ethical decision making, or whether the Sarbanes Oxley act encourages enterprises to "trade".

The general idea is more interesting than people.

But as long as you stick to it, day after day, I slowly learn how to say how to communicate with strangers.

Believe me, this is not very difficult.

The rules are fixed by most people and most people are extroverts (I think, at least 70%).

Networking is the key to releasing your potential.

So obey this rule and try to play the game well instead of sitting down and complaining. You have very good ideas but no one is going to implement it for you.

Maybe you can get a hint from my experience, so you won't have to go a lot of wrong ways.